All that stuff plays an important factor. I remember before I started dating there were people that wanted to get with me but they wanted me to leave the industry, which was not going to happen. People sit up and try to give you ultimatums before you and the person even start dating. In addition to that they are asking you to change something about you or what you do in order to be with them.  You have to be able to make a decision on what direction you want things to go and if something like that would be good for you.

Lets say things kick off and the relationship is going to a good start. You have to be mindful of changes  of your partner. Things that were being done when you met and that are not going on the same as before.  This is not something I am dealing with, but I can say that I have had experience in dealing with it. Know how you are u going to handle the situation if you notice certain things. Be prepared for what the outcome may be. I say that being a porn star and in a relationship is not the same as a person that is not in the industry. It can be hard as I have mentioned before. I think it is fair to say that its hard for both sides, but more so for the porn star.

You don’t want to come of insecure, but then again if you can admit to being insecure and then being able to explain why you feel the way that you do, the person might understand where you are coming from and why you might be feeling a certain way. Honesty as we all know is and plays a big part in a relationship.  Communication is another big part.  Which I know also is something that people don’t really utilize.  A lot of things either result in an argument or a hard break up. You have to be mindful of what it is both of you are looking to gain from the relationship and making sure that is something that you both want to engage in.

Well enough of me being Dr. Phil lol.  I will get at you all in the next blog post.

Keep it Gangsta.